My defining moments

I started my revision today for psychology and I came across the humanistic approach and more specifically the 'concept of self.' According to Rogers we have 3 concepts: the self concept- the way a person sees themselves, the ideal concept- the person whom we would like to be, and the real self- the person who we actually are.
     It got me thinking about how we see ourselves, a lot of people put themselves down repeatedly and only see the bad stuff. Many people are so far up themselves they can't see the truth, and unfortunately many people can never actually see themselves for themselves. I probably am slightly arrogant, obnoxious, ignorant as well maybe but I know that and I try not to be. I am well aware of my actual self, probably more of an average teenager than i'd like to admit, my ideal self on the other hand; well in many ways I am getting to be the man I want to be.
    But and this is a very BIG but. We can say whatever we like about who we are and who we want to be, talking makes no difference. You need to prove it, when the time comes and the opportunity to show everyone who you want to be, your ideal self, you have to take it, make it a defining moment.
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My Ghosts of Christmas past

 I love Christmas as much as the next person who obsessively loves Christmas and still gets no sleep Christmas eve. To me though Christmas has changed. I'm not sure if that's just because I no longer 'wait for Santa' to bring me presents or just because that's what happens over time; you get used to the excitement. Whatever it is I still get very happy around Christmas but as it's the end of the year I like to think back over everything that's happened since this Christmas and last. For instance last year I was hiding my last and only relationship from my parents, this year I'm reluctantly single (although it was I who ended it, I like to point that out). Last year I was slightly less mad, this year I'm mad as a box of (insert mad sounding thing here) but also and totally meaning to toot my own horn, smarter and more brilliant. Everyone probably has their own ghosts of Christmas past. I know several people who have lost people at Christmas and can therefore take that slightly more literally, but it doesn't have to be like that ghosts don't have to be bad things. For me they're every toy I've gotten at Christmas, and I remember a helluva lot of them, I also remember when I lost or broke them. Although and this is to completely contradict everything I've said. Should we look back at Christmas? or perhaps keep our minds securely in the present (yeah like I could(!)) or just maybe have our fun then start writing our lists for next year.
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My First Blog

Hello everyone, as the title suggests this is my first ever blog. I am no longer a blog virgin you will all be happy to know. My name is Connor, i'm 16, a nerd, and single (wink' anyone?). I've started this blog to get my thoughts out somewhere, ever since i was little i have spent so much time in my head; dreaming, shrinking back into myself to ignore the outside world. mainly the prior. i still do a lot of that; i imagine so much, think of everything i can, see the best and worst at the same time. To get them down on paper, as they say, of course not literally, i hope will help set them straight in my head and give you reader(s) something to think about. my first proper post will follow soon 

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